A Note on How Much I Love My Husband
After reading a very popular blog article about being a SAHM (woot! go team!), which can be found here, I felt impressed to write my own feelings about the biggest contributor in my life that allows me to stay home with my beautiful daughter.
Behind most every stay at home mom is a generous and hardworking father. I know this comes as a bit of a shock in a feminist world; but the truth remains, if I didn't have my husband faithfully working each day to support my family's growing expenses, then I would not be able to stay (let's be real: work!) at home with my daughter. I know this isn't all fathers and I realize that the world isn't black and white. Sometimes, even with the best intentions, two willing people cannot make the SAHM situation work. However, I think the majority of willing stay at home moms have a dedicated and selfless partner. Although the father's role is often glorified in this situation, a father must place many of his own sacrifices on the family altar as well. I know many fathers who work or have worked multiple jobs or simultaneously work and attend school. Sometimes, a working father may even forgo his dream job so that his paycheck will be large enough to pay for his and his family's expenses. It's time to let go of the old idea that men prefer to be away from home and from their families. I think if you asked them, many would say they wished they could spend more time at home and/or being with their families.
In my world, my husband is a manager, which usually means he works more than 40 hours/week. He also takes night classes three of those days he is working, so we usually see him 2-3 hours on those days(not including sleeping time). I know that he doesn't want to spend so much time away from home. I know he doesn't necessarily want to go back to school to get his master's degree. I know he would love to spend more time with his daughter. The only reason he does those things is his love for us(me and my daughter). And sure, maybe he enjoys being in a managerial role and maybe he likes learning new things, but after all is said and done, he does those things for our family. In a similar way, I make the same kinds of sacrifices. I don't always enjoy being at home with my daughter daily. Sometimes, I feel lonely. Sometimes, I feel inadequate. A lot of times, I feel bored. I agree to stay home and feel some of the ways I do because I love my husband and my daughter. This is what we have determined is best for our daughter. Yes, stay at home moms are great! We do a lot of amazing things, but remember that behind every amazing woman out there is a man doing his duty so she can be at home with her kids.
I want to thank the fathers of this world who put this as their first priority. Having an involved and caring father can make a big difference in the life of a child. Thank you for being willing to sacrifice your time, talents, and energy on something that allows moms to accomplish incredible feats at home. Thank you for working overtime, the extra weekend jobs, and other obligatory work functions so that families have food on their tables and roofs over their heads. Thank you for coming home and spending quality time with your wives and children. Thank you for encouraging your wives to do their best and most inspirational work at home with their children. Thank you for growing up and realizing the role that you play in the family! Thank you! Thank you! Thank you! You have no idea(and it is not nearly expressed enough) how much your contribution means to me and undoubtedly to the families that you work for!
Ugh! I love that face!
Behind most every stay at home mom is a generous and hardworking father. I know this comes as a bit of a shock in a feminist world; but the truth remains, if I didn't have my husband faithfully working each day to support my family's growing expenses, then I would not be able to stay (let's be real: work!) at home with my daughter. I know this isn't all fathers and I realize that the world isn't black and white. Sometimes, even with the best intentions, two willing people cannot make the SAHM situation work. However, I think the majority of willing stay at home moms have a dedicated and selfless partner. Although the father's role is often glorified in this situation, a father must place many of his own sacrifices on the family altar as well. I know many fathers who work or have worked multiple jobs or simultaneously work and attend school. Sometimes, a working father may even forgo his dream job so that his paycheck will be large enough to pay for his and his family's expenses. It's time to let go of the old idea that men prefer to be away from home and from their families. I think if you asked them, many would say they wished they could spend more time at home and/or being with their families.
In my world, my husband is a manager, which usually means he works more than 40 hours/week. He also takes night classes three of those days he is working, so we usually see him 2-3 hours on those days(not including sleeping time). I know that he doesn't want to spend so much time away from home. I know he doesn't necessarily want to go back to school to get his master's degree. I know he would love to spend more time with his daughter. The only reason he does those things is his love for us(me and my daughter). And sure, maybe he enjoys being in a managerial role and maybe he likes learning new things, but after all is said and done, he does those things for our family. In a similar way, I make the same kinds of sacrifices. I don't always enjoy being at home with my daughter daily. Sometimes, I feel lonely. Sometimes, I feel inadequate. A lot of times, I feel bored. I agree to stay home and feel some of the ways I do because I love my husband and my daughter. This is what we have determined is best for our daughter. Yes, stay at home moms are great! We do a lot of amazing things, but remember that behind every amazing woman out there is a man doing his duty so she can be at home with her kids.
I want to thank the fathers of this world who put this as their first priority. Having an involved and caring father can make a big difference in the life of a child. Thank you for being willing to sacrifice your time, talents, and energy on something that allows moms to accomplish incredible feats at home. Thank you for working overtime, the extra weekend jobs, and other obligatory work functions so that families have food on their tables and roofs over their heads. Thank you for coming home and spending quality time with your wives and children. Thank you for encouraging your wives to do their best and most inspirational work at home with their children. Thank you for growing up and realizing the role that you play in the family! Thank you! Thank you! Thank you! You have no idea(and it is not nearly expressed enough) how much your contribution means to me and undoubtedly to the families that you work for!
Ugh! I love that face!
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